APOSTOLIC PARENTING, PARENTS AND SOCIAL MEDIA “LET ‘EM FUSS”

LET ‘EM FUSS

Purpose to Alert:

Recently online Long Term Quality School Principal (Hopefully see beneath on TikTok) stated:

Q. WHAT IS a REAL REASON behind Major CHAOS in MANY Public Schools?

A. PARENTS AND MEDIA

SHE SAYS “NO  FACETIME WITH THE PARENTS….

BUT TOO MUCH FACETIME…. WITH UNLIMITED MEDIA

(TD would add,All of this in society upheaval ..seems to be creating (the unaliving mega trend, daily fentynal OD’s)

More angry out bursts fidgety mean disrespect no moral boundaries. Verbal boundaries. Very loose. No respect.

Plus add Covid factor. The Principsl said. Kids are 2 years behind

Let’s WISE UP .

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“Just say “NO”… .And really MEAN it!

My view above: “Some days YOU WANT IT other days YOU DON’T”

You got to know WHEN .but with temperance (yet without abject WEAKNESS)

CHILDREN : FIRM KINDNESS,BUT NOT SELF RIGHTEOUS “DEMEANING,”  CRITICAL ACCUSATION

A Few Proven Parenting Ideas: 

Usually it’s BEING LOUDLY DRAMATIC but not mean, accusing, religious screaming, role modeling abusive tones or phrase, which resemble YOUR OWN soulish loss of self controlling, using small painful swear words which openly reveal YOUR OWN weak lack of spiritual strength.

Loss of control, using violence, demeaning and or unusual pain, tactics openly shows up the parent/authorities own severe  ” “dysfunction” which come back to haunt both the child and the future adult much later, as it carries long in their “emotional hardrive” (my TCL Term) which can be scar them and be replied like an inside video repeat for ever on..

WISE TIPS:

• YET,..if YOU are the AUTHORITY PARENT “maintain dignity” Don’t loose your cool and have a accusative, explosive “melt down” which would lower you to beneath their level.

• Don’t put them down

• Kids are super savvy, when they want their own way…and skilled, very keen and will know how to defy, make excuses, try to control and “win, ” and pull on every emotion…to make YOU feel guilty..thus “Don’t EVER let them see you SWEAT.  Plus don’t be moved…you need to hang firm.

• Once more BE GENTLE, REALLY RESPECTFUL, KINDLY.. BUT FIRM. You will want stand YOUR GROUND

• LOSS OF TEMPER, VERBAL MOUTH SELF CONTROL, TANTRUMS  AND PHYSICAL STRIKING has it’s roots in carnal human nature apart from God.. And it is the signature fruit of the need for knowledge and understanding about IF, WHEN, AND HOW to instruct, a deep lesson about “maintaining SELF CONTROL” which is   “Self Government” mentioned as one of the Holy Spirit free “fruits of the spirit” when one receives Jesus Christ as their Savior (Apostle Paul lists in Galatians 5:22-23)
• . Self control, also known as  temperance, is a byproduct ( a fruit) of knowing Christ, yet some persons will have a natural amount or lesser amount more than others. So it is Christ’s Holy Spirit,  inside each of us who  makes the biggest difference if we feel we lack or are in need of a more plenteous big supply. (Bible research Galatians 5:22-23 and ask God for more of each)

 

.  MOM or DAD (plus step parent, grandparent, authority)

• You will need to “be there” with them, for time periods to have a ‘choice,relationship” which will then give them “respect for what you have to say and for what you tell them to do” if YOU are “present” and not looked onto your own media, cell, watching TV or hard at work 24/7 and they feel unconnected “emotionally, mentally” in the soul real THIS IS THE FIRST  POINT (to keep a safe, happy, joyful RELATIONSHIP when YOU ARE NOT DISCIPLINING OR CORRECTING THEM

LEARNING SELF GOVERNMENT

YE MUST SOW IN ORDER TO LATER “REAP

• This is what I would say to “SOW” you give, (you sow) THE PARENT TO CHILD ” “RELATIONSHIP”  QUALITY  TIME AND THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF ACTUAL GOD LED TIME  (However, while all of this will prove very VALUABLE, while you are doing this is EXPENSIVE (pressurized) REASON?  for it takes  PATIENCE, USE OF TIME and EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL  ENERGY to do that…ALSO

 

•  IT IS BLESSED, HOWEVER IT IS NOT MAKING MONEY…nor is it APPARENT or  GAUGEABLE “Visible” big progress “So indeed it is EXPENSIVE and involves TRUSTING THE LORD and SOWING DESPITE

 

• NOTE.  SOME Parents have more love, find more enjoyment, are able to give more  energy as well as ‘ understanding” for the reasons for SOWING ALL OF THIS than others. Also some are step parents, boyfriends. who may not want to GET THIS or ENJOY DOING THIS (a whole big side but I am not able to get into that now)

 

•  YET IT IS A WISE MOTHER, OR DAD who oversees the other spouse or parent and helps to fill in the missing gaps. AND VICE VERSA

 

CHIEF POINT: One has to be actually have a hands on side, in order to BE THERE FOR THEM 1. TO show how you LOVE THE CHILD, 2 TO BUILD THAT BOND OF RELATIONSHIP “RESPECT” (for later on as well) 3. AND TO MAKE SURE THEY DO AS YOU INSTRUCT OR GUIDE THEM TO ACHIEVE “DOING WHAT IS “RIGHT”

• YOU, YOUR MATE must do your  best to TRAIN WISELY not as THE MEAN INFLICTER OF GUILT OR ACCUSING PAIN

 

• HEALTHY HEALTHY DEEPLY HEALTHY: YOU SHOULD BE EMOTIONALLY SECURE AND MATURE. in order to assess WHAT and HOW TO MODEL and EXPECT at nearly every moment. Choose to be wise and SET, then MAINTAIN pure kind clear yet FIRM  MAIN BOUNDARIES

 

• AND YOU YOURSELF MUST ALSO model the same basic Big Boundaries. (they will read you,, realize or not, know that or not) 

RESPECT: EXPECT IT..SOWING AND REAPING BUT TEACHING EVEN CORRECTING (Staying FIRM).

YES, You realize that you ought to GIVE IT..but many great parents to not fully EXPECT TO GET IT BACK. And many NOT GET RESPECT from the child, so these should TRAIN AND MODEL plus the repeated REQUIRE IT.

 

BE FUN,  KIND,YET WHEN NEED BE..YOU OUGHT TO BE FIRM , EVEN SILENT AND WISELY STAND YOUR GROUND… , IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO RE- EXPLAIN, TO RE-TRAIN  AND MODEL IT,, THEN DO SO

ALSO, EXPECT TO BE RESPECTED (see it as a FAITH: your inward  POSITIVE FAITH IN THEIR RESPECT FOR YOU and YOUR EARNED RESPECT COMING FROM THEM ) “they will feel it ” or ‘know it” somehow.

HOWEVER, this is HARD and if you need to continue repeating this, then SURELY YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST NOR WILL YOU BE THE LAST to have do this…

BUT PERSIST as this is also a HUGE HIDDEN BIG KEY. See this as SOWING INTO THEM ” REPETITION.”

NOTICE TO MAMAS, GRANDMAMA’S, the SILENT Brave Persons, many  Sacrificial Silent  STOICS, (meaning Especially)

YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. WORTHY..SO DON’T NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE DISRESPECTED,…CURSED OUT, FLIPPED OFF, ABUSED, DEMEANED  OR PUNCHED;

GOOGLE AND PLAY The old song “RESPECT YOURSELF“for LOW SELF RESPECT, FEELING WEAK NO GOOD..  emmanates from way down deep in  your private soul and sucks in mean disrespect like a hidden vaccum cleaner.. YOU NEED TO WORK YOUR OWN DEEP SIDE SPIRITUAL, MIND, VIEW POINT ESTEEM “MUSCLE” 

If you need help I can help you. online.. But I prefer YOU START TO WORK IN THIS with 3 J2 LIFESTYLES Mind, will emotions Uplift)

3 John 2 “Beloved above all things I would that YOU prosper and be in HEALTHy even as YOUR SOUL Prospers” (soul being “mind, will and emotions)

SO WHEN YOU ENTER INTO THE CHILD PARENT CONFRONTATION (TODDLER ONWARD)

I VOTE THAT YOU SHOULD RADIATE YOUR OWN LOW RESPECT FOR YOURSELF..it will create The Vaccum that abuse, bullying, dysfunction will seek to FILL (to USE YOU and make YOU it’s VICTIM)

AGAIN, Know your own  (prone to ) weakinesses but also HOW TO GAIN STRENGTH in those.. Prayer, counsel, training, overcoming negative believes, inner healing, and physical active wellness diet and self care, more..

ALSO THIS SAME THING APPLIES TO ALL DADS, STEP PARENTS, ADOPTIVE PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, GUARDIANS.. any parental Family Authority Figure

SADLY, WHAT I KEEP NOTICING ONLINE HEADLINES: 

(it appears most tragic and sickening)

STEP PARENTS: It “looks” like (even_ MANY  Step Parents are meaner  and more short fused and prone to fly off the handle and do something simply horrible to the step child (for they have no natural blood, emotional kind of healthy (guilty conscious producing) big BOND.. and its then far easier to lose their patience, to have no guilt or remorse in “getting even with” ‘getting rid of” their “millstone around their Self Centric strong neck”

It is very hard for me to see this repeatedly over and over on Americans online Newscasts: abuse, torture, repeatedly violence…and this must be addressed, so I am.Accusing very abusive than natural parents. Or more slack

Let them do what they want to not be bothered.

ALSO POTENTIAL, RIGHT NOW.. MARRIAGES, FUTURE BOYFRIENDS, AND ADOPTIVE PARENTS ALSO  Be WARNED.

Also this Exact Same  WARNING applies to each GENDER OF Human Real Life PERSONS. 

THIS” Drill Sargent” is NOT beating, swearing, demonic lecturing, demeaning, physically or emotionally abusive it is PERSONAL SELF GOVERNMENT WITH RESPECT BUT A MODICOM OF BRAVADO,(Tad  DRAMA, ) STRENGTH AND RESERVED STEEL (Note Genesis 3 “God confronting Adam after he willfully, intentionally, picked that piece of fruit out of wife Eve’s hand and choose to chew it and swallow it, which wrecked God’s Garden, Blissful Humankind Organic For Ever World Plan) . WE READ that GOD was a GREAT FATHER . Rather than BERATING FIRST SON  ADAM, for Adam had done MUCH DEEP GLOBAL DESTRUCTION as it was)

HOWEVER, THE PATIENT, LONG SUFFERING GIANT FATHER CREATOR GOD ‘who could have screamed , ranted and threatened, who might have lectured and demonized First Born Son ADAM, rather practiced RESTRAINT and called out “Adam, where ARE YOU” Meaning to this person “God gave Adam time to MAN UP and HUMAN UP and to FESS UP before GOD (like this) ” Father, I confess, YES, I did eat of the forbidden fruit, and YES, you told me not to eat any, even before Eve was formed.! (and I admit that yes, I did hear you on that day!) And Lord, YES I am so sorry that I respected MY WIFE and her desire that I should eat fruit (to please HER more than  I chose to respect and to please YOU)…

 

SO “MAYBE” IF ADAM had Risen, Stood up , Humanned to REPENT to GOD on his and Eve’s behalf (as he was chain of command head over the planet and his wife, coming family) MAYBE GOD WOULD HAVE SAID, “Ok, Son ,I forgive you, Just don’t do it any more, for “Two strikes and you both are out”

JUST A SELAH “WHAT IF”..AND A  PONDERING FROM A PARENTS LOVING VIEWPOINT, nothing more, not making DOGMA.

PURPOSEFUL PERSPECTIVE..For ADAM and EVEs doubt and sin was RELATIONSHIP DISRESPECT and WILLFUL DISREGARD OF THE PARENT WHO GAVE THEM LIFE; The Eternal Creator FATHER.

NOW LET’S GET THE FINAL POINT ABOUT KIDS: 

WISDOM ….THE START OF .TRAINING  THE CHILD TO MIND,  TO BE RESPECTFUL , TO NOT HARM, TO NOT TALK BACK, TO NOT IGNORE ..either the MOTHER or the FATHER  should begin as soon as you notice the power struggle ….to be in CONTROL. And that is VERY subtle, however  natural and merely a part of human existence….of Living in the World in Real Life so do not fear, nor ACCUSE A CHILD for it is NOT “the devil personified” and “THEM WANTING TO DO THIS basically (tiny children) (this means that they are not to be judged as “THEM BEING IN SIN OR EVIL” for at the kiddo stage, it will the   ‘human nature rising  up”

NOTE: which can happen deep inside any of US at practically any given day !

SO INSTEAD TAKE THAT AS THE SIGN that YOU want to prepare to TRAIN…And to do this BEFORE YOU MISS THE BIG POINT OF “TOO LATE” which is usually after they ongoing, frequently, hang out, are surrounded by and continually participate with PEERS. (age 2-3 onward) for ‘dysfunction accuses and leaves pain and scarring and infects )

ASIDE” also continue TO monitor whom the are surrounded by “watch who they are PEERS WITH and HOW THEY ACT and HOW THEY RESPECT, AND  THEIR “RELATIONSHIPS” with their PARENTS, OR GUARDIANS”

.NOTE: NOW IS BETTER THAN FINDING OUT THAT THEY’VE ALREADY CLOSED YOU OUT.

Finally, I feel that it’s better to start  TRAINING YOUNG... TO RESPECT, TO RECEIVE CORRECTION and to LEARN TO NOT “BE RUDE TO EITHER MOTHER OR FATHER ” (Plus ANY ONE) at avery EARLY AGE (perhaps when they say for the first time “NO!!” And mean it.)..and they are alone with yourself.. REASON FOR? 

WHEN THEY GIVES SIGNS OF STUBBORN DEFIANCE: (but do not get TOO STRICT just for me saying it like that) Be soft, not mean.

But REALISTIC: FOR EARLY ON, you need to  have their SPIRITS OPEN (see it as an Open Window”  for this type of admonishing, loving firm training..(means BEFORE THEY TUNE YOU OUT or have grown TOO HARD and USED TO GETTING WHATEVER THEY WANT) OR BEING ACCUSATIVE TOWARD EITHER MOM OR DAD/

WISE NOTICE: That  after they get out  among their Peers ..it soon starts to be OVER/

CHANGE TO THIS SCHOOL TOPIC

Submitting some Emotionally Mature , NOT TOO SEVERE, Wise Pointers

TIK TOK BENEATH which inspired me to write this:

MY ONLINE NEWS OBSERVATIONS (for the last 6 weeks or even MORE).

“The number of teachers daily who are fed up, exasperated, bullied and demeaned, who feel they are getting NO SUPPORT from school staff, admin and/or HR or School Board “looks” Chiefly BIG…so vast servant leader numbers are now apparently  QUITTING 

SEE IF THIS  VIDEO SHOWS UP:

https://www.tiktok.com/@nikbowers_/video/7213484893114797358

@nikbowers_ Can we talk about screen, addiction, and school behavior? We are having a mass exitus of teachers leaving the profession because of parent and student behavior. But nobody wants to talk about the underlying behavior of screen addiction. These students are physically aggressive, they can’t regulate their emotions, and they are extremely anxious and irritable. Our kids are craving connection, stimulation, and a sense of belonging. Parents need to give that to them.#questions #parentingtips #screenaddiction #behavior #anxiety #momsoftiktok #teachersoftiktok #parentingteens #parenthood #screentime ♬ original sound – Nik Bowers

SO…TO SAY A PRAYER, TO BE A GOOD WISE ADMINISTRATIVE TYPE OF PARENT, TO TRAIN AND TEACH ALL PARENTS AND TO “BE THERE” FOR YOU KID, EVEN A FRIENDS, IF THEY ARE OVERWORKED AND NEED HELP!

 

God Bless and lets say for the Christian Households, God’s BIG PROMISE IN Psalm 112:

However, DO NOT DESPAIR..just let the Holy Spirit direct you and continue on in prayer! Be wise,participate in YOUR BOARDS and public governing many types of groups IF, AS, WHEN, HOW God truly leads!

 

 

THEN CLAIM THE PROMISES MAINLY VERSE 2 ABOUT THIS GENERATION “RIGHT NOW” (Also…and no matter what Age, “declared generation” you represent, your children, grand kids, future kids..then GOD INCLUDES YOU in the “THIS GENERATION NOW “which I feel that I am apostolic type and also part of.

 

 

PSALM 112 KJV “The Blessing Upon the Righteous Person”

112 Praise ye the Lord. Blessed is the man that feareth the Lord, that delighteth greatly in his commandments.

² His seed shall be mighty upon earth: the generation of the upright shall be blessed.

³ Wealth and riches shall be in his house: and his righteousness endureth for ever.

⁴ Unto the upright there ariseth light in the darkness: he is gracious, and full of compassion, and righteous.

⁵ A good man sheweth favour, and lendeth: he will guide his affairs with discretion.

⁶ Surely he shall not be moved for ever: the righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance.

⁷ He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the Lord.

⁸ His heart is established, he shall not be afraid, until he see his desire upon his enemies.

⁹ He hath dispersed, he hath given to the poor; his righteousness endureth for ever; his horn shall be exalted with honour.

¹⁰ The wicked shall see it, and be grieved; he shall gnash with his teeth, and melt away: the desire of the wicked shall perish.”

 

LET’S SAY “AMEN! ” meaning “SO BE IT!”

God Bless

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