ABUSE …THE AWRY RELATIONSHIP

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RECURRING  ABUSE PTSD PSALM 143

1Hear my prayer, O Lord, give ear to my supplications: in thy faithfulness answer me, and in thy righteousness.

² And enter not into judgment with thy servant: for in thy sight shall no man living be justified.

³ For the enemy hath persecuted my soul; he hath smitten my life down to the ground; he hath made me to dwell in darkness, as those that have been long dead.

⁴ Therefore is my spirit overwhelmed within me; my heart within me is desolate”

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Please use all of the above as a reminder to the traditional, usually empathy free, compassion fatigued, even accuser very jaundiced overworked counseling, pastor, minster, mental health counselor NOT to view every one through jaded STEREOTYPES.

RECURRING EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL ABUSE may be viewed as a classic symptom of “Christian sin”…yet it may also include big wide issues of ” environmentally learned relationship disrespect”  “big unforgiveness deep baggage and assessed prior history build up” “a person, persons… with  no self government, as in self control”…AND /OR it could emanate from “mental health” “passed way down environmental, family” “chemical” “environmental root” yet “psychiatric” deep issues, birth deep core, many complex issues.

 

ASIDE…And with some chief abusers being raised so badly that now when the feel extra life, money, mental, extreme big pressure, they just explode, not understanding how God can be There for him/her..to curb, to block to fully STOP. Hence we plan to teach, train, reassure..

 

And/or while RAGE, CRUELTY, VIOLENCE  may at some times rooted in  “demonic” and/or  “illness”…learned or responsive, big pressure related behavior, the CHOICE to seek HELP from God, wise counsel, medical physician or any other is wide open and omitted, avoided due to Patriarchal “the little woman is at fault” and or naive, majorly clueless legal, church, and Deeply Entrenched Overly Large System ongoing authorities.

MAIN VIEW POINT: COUNSELING ONE TO ONE..MEANS ONE BY EACH AND EVERY  GOD MADE UNIQUE ONE

Also, the above Hot Topic is to  encourage EACH who gives counsel, has a ministry, to remain very open ended, no use of prevailing stereotypes and to perceive and truly hear each and every single real person as having a REAL REASON to be fully HEARD but with each one needing a UNIQUE case by case problem resolving, yet minus “FAST FIX” or “applied FORMULAS”  solution seeking approach.

 

This writer passed through these exceeding demeaning, accusative and wearying, multi  complex, even incurring doctrinal, unsafe waters after being raised in a very safe, happy Godly contented senior pastor’s humble ministry family. And she did not for a long time fully understand how GOD expected the alone Her to rise up to deal with it. Hence the “growth and maturing Learning Curve” ample experience.

 It was such an unforeseen, and  foreign, never prior to abuse,ever once encountered subject..but do to what went on in her,the abuser, the family and the local area leader mostly WELP vastly immature and religious small minded narrow views regarding such…along the long, hard exceedingly difficult overall process, the Lord was always THERE and showed her what to do and what to say and when to give it the best longest Christian SHOT but also when to FULLY FLEE (meaning after having to call the police twice )..

 

So T now offers many leader significant points to PASTORS, LEADERS, ELDERS, LAY, COUNSELORS in order to serve, help to preserve,with the expressed intent to FULLY AVOID  to experience emotional violence, repeated demeaning abuse and the horrific, long stoney Silent Treatment.. which This White Outer Court Earthsuited,no longer married,  She writes about experiencing all of this in the first parts of the website.

 

And by God’s grace, equipping Bible applied faith, Holy Spirit direction, many family and friends prayers as well understanding, worship, the presence and peace and supernatural long term, preserving internal power, brought her to the better leader understanding of how to address both parties but also pastors, ministers and counsel.

Peacefully written and submitted to the Body of Christ in Assessing Spiritual Selah.

BIG POINT…NO TWO PASTORS, MINISTERS, COUNSELORS, PARENTS, ABUSIVE, ABUSED MALES, FEMALES,LEGALLY WEDDED SPOUSES, FELLOWSHIP ATTENDERS, PERSONS OF A COLOR, SET AGE, APPEARING LOOK, ALL RESEMBLING BOTH, ONE OF THE PARTIES… ARE IDENTICAL.

While there may be similarities, God will hold each pastor, minister, counselor directly accountable for NOT being biased, back Under the Old (“the little woman brought it upon herself” as “She was not being submissive”) Age Old local religious OT Law, usually WELP (deep ancestor Western European deep in tradition, passed down huge  stereotypes LP meaning OT Levitical Patriarchism priestly bias.)

 

Following 15-20 years of this, Taveau was left in the Psalm 143 PTSD from which she understands the Living Lord allowed her to undergo, to perhaps VERY MANY unknown OTHERS…and she will address this later on this week on a Real Life Is A.R.T. “Abiding Relationship Theology” audio podcast.

WONDERING “How can we have, sustain, ongoing ample RELATIONSHIPS minus employing God’s Holy Spirit “tempering” patience, peaceful totally SELF GOVERNING internal POWER to keep them in JAMES 3:17 Self Control?”

AM FREELY PRESENTLY MINISTRY ADVOCATING… NO MORE FRIENDLY FIRE CAUSTIC FELLOWSHIPS…. Real Reason…ACCUSATION in Fellowships must seek the Lord about how NOT to accuse the attenders, ministers and lay, who encounter repeated verbal, demeaning violence PRIOR to their attempting to Bible submit to Hebrews 10:25 …based upon the In House OT Levitical use of Pharisee accuser legalism, judgmental Letter of the Law

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WHY THIS NEW SPIRITUAL DOCTRINE LEADER FOCUS?

ABIDING JAMES 3:17 RELATIONSHIP THEOLOGY

HOW DID Jesus ACT, REACT.. in every single one of His ministry, personal, family life Abiding RELATIONSHIPS, locally, privately, with His dear mother Mary..when He roamed the earth in the Gospels: Matthew, Mark, Luke, John. Then, we BIBLE NOBLE BEREAN, at least ministry SCAN to understand, fine tune in order to simply ACT, REACT and employ Holy Spirit supernatural power and His eternal Help….. to do just like JESUS CHRIST did.

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Hence the present now need to CHRISTIAN MINISTRY , LAY address ” Apostle Paul Galatians 5:222-3 Holy Spirit fruits of the Spirit “Love joy peace patience goodness meekness, SELF CONTROL”…AND ALSO per Unique Individual to ” not feel shame if one is prone to abuse, but seeking the Holy Spirit power TO REFRAIN” and also to train on abiding in JAMES 3;17 All Relationship Fruit (“any wisdom that represents God is first of all  pure, peaceable, easily entreated, full of mercy, and good fruit (Gal 5:22-23 fruits of the Spirit),

 

MAIN TALKING LEADER POINT: There is no shame in a person being raised in an abusive environment, recurring deep abuse…as they could not help it…and it was not their FAULT.

YET IF the Believing One  was allowed, by God’s goodness, great grace… to survive all that, then the one  must take responsibility by going to GOD, WISE COUNSEL, THERAPY and /or MEDICINE when, if one finds that their own past, childhood ABUSE starts to rise, occur with their SPOUSE, CHILDREN, STEP CHILDREN and or OTHERS.

So let’s purposely avoid accusation of any admitting Emotional, Physical Abuser…Simply avoid SHAME and keeping it hidden in the CLOSET, Rather, it must be made simply, and peaceful, not shameful..pragmatic, matter of factly…with NO wise pastor, elder, counselor, therapist, CHRISTIAN LAY….family, parents…. as in meaningful NOBODY appearing SHOCKED, HORRIFIED at the confessing dear human persons abuse admissions.

TO ASSESS ONESELF RATHER THAN SELF ACCUSE, AND AVOID SELF FLAGELLATION

“There is NO sin or shame for being RAISED abused, raw…etc. YET if you have accepted Jesus Christ as YOUR Savior, then He would hold YOU responsible for NOT forgiving, seeking Help and even getting saving prayer, help, deliverance, ministry /other counsel, and/or needed medicine…in order  to AVOID repeating that sort of untoward behavior.”

Holy Spirit SELF GOVERNMENT, with counsel, ministry deliverance, getting medicine, and whatever else it takes NATURALLY and or SPIRITUALLY…to STOP THIS in your own generation.

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